Seventeen years ago, I wrote a novel about a Conflict Manager. For the past sixteen years, I’ve been editing it. My interest is in Conflict Managers’ thought processes as we … Continue reading Does conflict competence make a good story?
If I listen to the voices that tell me I can’t, or it’ll never happen, I ensure that I don’t and it won’t. If I try anyway, there’s at least … Continue reading Will practice make up for lack of talent?
Question posed: What is the one quality I can use to make rejection easier for the other person to accept? Answer: Sometimes rejection requires a firm, unambiguous, one sentence that doesn’t leave … Continue reading Kindness is my Kryptonite
Question posed: How do I change the other person’s behaviour when that is what’s creating conflict? Answer: A fast 3-step dance pattern describes a lot of conflicts. Step one: the first … Continue reading How to change other peoples’ conflict behaviour
No! I didn’t get over it already. What’s more realistic is I’ve gotten past it. Trauma is like flowers that bloom, go dormant, and bloom again. Emotions, like living things, cycle over … Continue reading Get over it or get past it (or both)?
Change seems to breed retrospection and paradox. My past is as big a surprise as any future. Oh, I was naive to believe my life’s path led straight to graduation and some career. In … Continue reading Changing piece of mind to peace of mind