This is a recent question posed to the Conflict Doctor. Question posed: I’m considering becoming a Conflict Manager, but I’ve had an unusual, technical career. In your opinion, yes or… Read more Conflict management unlimited →
Question posed: is it seemly for a manager to apologize to someone he supervises? Although I was in the wrong, I’m concerned about losing face, or diminishing my authority in… Read more Role of power in apologies →
Question posed: You seem to love being a Conflict Manager and I think I would too. Any suggestions for getting into the field? Answer: Yes, I’ve been a full-time conflict… Read more 10 TIPS to becoming a Conflict Manager →
Question posed: What is the one quality I can use to make rejection easier for the other person to accept? Answer: Sometimes rejection requires a firm, unambiguous, one sentence that doesn’t leave room for argument of whether or not you mean ‘no’. Other times, you might want a softer approach.
Question posed: How do I change the other person’s behaviour when that is what’s creating conflict? Answer: A fast 3-step dance pattern describes a lot of conflicts. Step one: the first person acts or speaks; Step two: the second person (you) interprets those words or actions, and Step three: the second person (still you) reacts based on that interpretation. So, your question is about changing step one. Most answers to your question advise you on steps two and three because that’s where you have real control. My answer is a little different than… Read more How to change other peoples’ conflict behaviour →
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Deborah Sword 